Depression has reoccurring symptoms, side affects and triggers. Anxiety, very similar to depression, however, very different as well because the triggers can change without notice, side affects can worsen or change without a request. When you deal with both, well, your head is a constant tornado. Any type of emotional tragedy can send me into an F5 tornado and it can wreak havoc on my life for days. Living at an F2 daily, this is a HUGE increase.
Then there are those times when I am sent into a life altering F6 spin that is all consuming and blocks out all light, only shadows giving an allusion to the light. The year 2014 was a year that brought such a level of emotional devastation. I was blessed with 2 sets of parents, my natural parents that raised me, and my inherited parents that came into my life over 17 years ago. I call them my Indy family and my NC family. I lost 2 of my parents in 2014, one from each family. I am still recovering from this tornado 2 years later. It has wreaked so much havoc in my life that I am still cleaning up the mess. The pain that was, is and will be felt from this is too indescribable to attempt.
I have recently gone through so much emotional pain that I was definitely sent into an F5, very closely bordering an F6. I have fallen into some bad habits of dealing with this pain and rejection. Trying to find ways to numb the pain. Lashing out at someone I love so very much that I can not express enough remorse to this person to make it right. I tried to explain to this person, I will show you 2 hours in an F5 tornado.
"So much to say, none of it matters. I will never remember without pain, but will hopefully smile again one day. I never did fit. I waasn't meant to. I'm stupid, do stupid things to temporarily override the pain, but it always returns. I get confused, was it real for them, no, it couldn't have been. The pain is overwhelming, I can't breathe at times, even when people are watching. More excuses to make, another mask to wear. So much pain to hide, but it never goes far, always returns. Truly want happiness for them, but what's making them happy turns my stomach when I think about all that I know; it was really real, right? Yeah, in this moment, it was real, now I get sick. Clean up, think some more. Pain. It couldn't have been real. I'm an idiot. Numb the pain again. That's better. Until now, the pain returns, I can't breathe."
This was truly just the span of 2 hours during my work day, so yes, there was work going on during all of this and that just adds to the F5's spin. I needed this person. I try not to need anyone like this, on this level. I am pretty good at not needing actually. I want certain people, but not need, not me. But this one, this one was needed. Now I have to decide if I desire to continue in this vortex and allow it to continue consuming me or if I will, oh geez can I, take a deep breath and find my way out. I know what's best. I know what's right. But I also know what I need, and want, but oh wow, what I need.
My rainbow in this turmoil? Well, this tornado has been spinning for awhile now, it peaked last week. But, my rainbow has come in the written words of believers who want nothing more than to help me breathe. Both the person to whom I lashed out and the person that I tried to hide from; they both have used their faith to guide me through the vortex. To Durham, I say thank you for searching for me through my tornado. To the other person, the one that I lashed out at, I want to say thank you for your loving and forgiving heart and all of the lessons that you taught. I tip my hat to you and hope and pray that I can retain those lessons and lean on them when I am in need of a smile. My rainbow tonight is that I accepted the true love of both of these people that God saw fit to put into my life.
All my love, Me
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