Words - Spoken and Unspoken

Have you ever given thought to how powerful the words that you speak or write are to the person who receives them? I have often desired to be talented with words, I absolutely adore reading something that is well written. However, I have also been on the receiving end of the power that those same words can exhibit.  It's not always good.

"You're too fat". "You're not very pretty." "That was a stupid thing to say". There's really a lot more that I could draw from.  Painful, to this day, some of those words that may have been heard or read decades ago.  People just don't always think about the power they have with something as simple as the alphabet.  I watch a video online today that was created by a high school senior for her senior project, it was about bullying.  It gave intense examples of the power of ones words to another person.

But, have you then taken the time to think about the power of the words that you do not speak? Those unspoken words can be just as painful to the receiver, sometimes even more painful. Sometimes, there is such conflict caused by what is spoken and what is unspoken that the receiver feels lost, used, set aside, hurt and even foolish. You may say you love someone, that you want a future with them, then as time has passed and these words are no longer heard so they are asked for, you say nothing. The conflict that can come from that is too painful to imagine. Maybe you avoid answering a question. Maybe you answer with "things are fine as they are" or "I wouldn't change anything right now". The receiver of those words can read so very much in to those words.

I have been in an alphabetical turmoil lately and there are many degrees to my hell.  What could I have said or done wrong? Why can't it be that one? How could I try harder to fix it, or get the answer I want? I wish I could hear your thoughts. I wish I could know how you feel. I wish I knew what you wanted. How can I help? Oh, geez but I could go on.

But, in the middle of this turmoil, I have decided to change the way I think, or at least try. People will ALWAYS disappoint and hurt you ( I mean me). They are only human. Humans are full of errors. Sometimes the words they say, they mean. Sometimes they don't. Sometimes they choose not to say things for fear of hurting you/me. Sometimes, it's because they don't want to risk being hurt. So, though we cannot give up on humans, I have chosen to focus instead on the spoken words that never change, always provide truth, always show real emotion and never intend to cause pain.

My rainbow through this turmoil is The Bible...God's Word(s). "But whoever keeps His word, truly the love of God is perfected in him." 1 John 2:5

This is what I hope drives me through my life, looking for this kind of love in others. Spoken words won't be needed. Unspoken words will be understood. Confusion can be resolved. Be kind with the alphabet, you do not know how it will be received.

All my love, Me.